On a rainy, foggy night in January, the four of us were going to a concert. We were all very excited and as the concert was a two hour drive, we set out early. The mp3 player was loaded with music to get us into the mood and we were in great spirits as we set out on our drive….
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Going ‘No Contact’
What Is ‘No Contact’? ‘No contact’ is a popular term, used to describe your choice to disconnect, totally and completely, from one or more persons. It usually refers to familial and romantic relationships, but it can also be platonic, friend relationships as well. It’s a tough thing to do. You’re involved with someone and you know that their toxicity is…
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Duty and Loyalty to Those Who Don’t Deserve It
Duty and Loyalty. Two very important character traits. But at what point must we ask ourselves if our fealty to someone or something is no longer deserved, or maybe misdirected in the first place? I speak to so many people who make excuses for people who treat them horribly. I recognize it, because I did it myself. But there came…
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Finding Your Tribe
I hear so many people talk about how hard it is to make friends after a certain age. Whether it’s 30, 40, 50, or more, I’m calling bullshit. There are absolute, concrete ways to make really good friends, it doesn’t matter if you want one great friend, a small circle or an entire tribe. You can do this. Humans are…
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Constructive Criticism?
Or Destructive Criticism? We all need a sound board. Someone who will be honest with us about how we might improve. Sometimes, however – the people that we choose for that role aren’t exactly well suited for it. So, how do you decide who to trust with your most vulnerable self? It’s really easy to explain, but it’s not so…
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