Recently I watched a video on manifestation techniques and it put forth an interesting idea of the flow of manifestation dependent upon your expectation. I found it so interesting, because historically I am a powerful manifestor. Truly. I seem to be able to conjure up anything I desire. Anything, that is, except money. Oh sure, I can scrape together what I need, and it always seems to show up, sometimes at the very last minute and usually exactly what I need, but I have long desired to be able to create MORE than what I need. For me, this required a lot of work.
First, I had to be comfortable with the idea that it was OK to have more than what I needed and that I deserved to have more than what I needed. Finances have been a big theme of my life. It has played out with my parents, friends, family, my former marriage, my children, you name it. I have struggled with the ideas of finances, money, and struggling, for literally, my entire life. There were a couple of years that I came close to getting over it, but I never quite made it.
This video talked about manifestation in three separate phases.
So let’s break that down. In the first phase is “Desire” – what is it that you really want? Not, what you think you should want, but what you truly, actually, want, with all your heart. I’m good there. I know what I want. I’m not bogged down by “shoulds”, I’ve worked very hard and I’m now able to accept myself and what I want without interference.
In the second phase; “Imagination”. Check. I have a wonderfully vivid imagination and I’m able to imagine all sorts of wonderful (and terrible) things.
So, I’ve got those down. Not a problem – so what’s wrong? Where do I get held up?
hm. I expect great things to happen, I’m “silver lining girl”! I have and continue to make great friends, I find wonderful things to occupy my time, I have a community that I can go to for help any time. As a matter of fact I have multiple communities and I’m constantly “stumbling across” all kinds of amazing stuff! Except… with money.
When I really looked at this issue, I realized that I don’t expect good things when it comes to finances. I expect to lack, I expect to do without. And to make matters worse, I didn’t even really know that. And I certainly didn’t acknowledge it. So I got super honest with myself and I really wrote down my lacking beliefs – when I’d filled enough (I thought), I changed them. I created affirmation to the positive of all the negative things that I was expecting.
Then, I had to get super honest about my belief system and where these expectations come from. It wasn’t hard to figure out, but it was very hard to look at. But, look at it, I did. And so many of my beliefs stem from unhealthy relationships that revolved around money and the idea that people who had money, used it to control those who didn’t. I didn’t want to be viewed as that tyrant. And tyrant is exactly how I viewed it. I really reviewed phrases that were thrown at me at different times of my life; breaking them down and blowing them up. I tried to see the dysfunction of the people who acted that way and I really tried to view them with compassion, instead of resentment.
I’m not all the way there yet, but I’m getting there.
So creating the affirmation was another challenge for me. Creating one that I could actually believe. I finally came up with one that I heard in a stupid coffee creamer commercial. Now I say it multiple times a day.
“I Expect To Be Delighted!”
So how about you? How do you manage your expectations?